There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk

(Dorothy) “How many times does a girl have to bang her head on a brick wall before it bleeds? (Rose),…….9!” From an episode of the Golden Girls

I have always loved this
poem by Portia Nelson, published in her book
There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery. In order to create lives we love we need to become aware (without judgement) of the choices that we make that feel like falling into a big hole. What comes up for you as you read this poem?

Chapter I

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit … but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

Coaching Tip:  Which chapter best describes where you are in your life right now? What choices to do you make on a daily weekly or monthly basis that are like falling into a big hole for you?  What could you do to turn the page and start over? What loving support could you put in place to make it happen?

Affirm: “I now release absolutely everything that causes me to be mean to myself.” Cheryl Richardson

Hope this inspires you to make better choices for yourself.  Have a fantastic week.

Here is the poem read and filmed in a very creative way. Enjoy!

YouTube – There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk!

Resource: For a very affordable online course on over coming self-sabotage that I recommend click here.

Image by: Kojach

Healing Underlying Beliefs

“There are times when no matter how hard we ―try, we are unable to experience that which we say we want in our lives. We set a goal, keep trying to make it happen but it just doesn‘t occur. This experience can be frustrating and detrimental to our confidence and self esteem. But rather than judging ourselves, allowing this experience to define who we are, and developing or enforcing a belief as a result of this, the key is to use this opportunity as a place of exploration. By approaching the experience with curiosity and inquiry, you can unlock the belief that stops you from achieving your goal.” International Coach Academy

Today I was talking to my coach about how I was feeling overwhelmed  with the building of my new website and so we decided to explore some underlying beliefs. In the session I realized that deep down a part of me was feeling not smart enough to create a beautiful website by myself.

We did some inner child work, (which I love to do with my clients as well) and he asked me when was the first time I remember feeling not smart enough. After remembering something that happened to me at the age of 9, my coach and I then explored what I would say to a 9 year old who was not feeling smart enough.

This was my response: “You are so smart. You are beautiful and wonderful. You can do this. I am here to help you and if you feel stuck I will help you in any way I can. We can always ask other nice people to help us as well. Let’s take our time and have fun along the way. I will always be by your side. You are awesome for trying something so new and unknown.” This of course made me feel loved and I’m on my way to healing that belief and creating a wonderful new coaching website.

Coaching tip: Become aware of an area of your life you feel stuck in. What belief, opinion, or judgement could you be reinforcing by constantly creating this outcome?

Affirm: I am willing to look at my underlying beliefs and see them as tiny children that need my love.

Image by Lel4nd (be back soon in Dec)'s