“There are times when no matter how hard we ―try, we are unable to experience that which we say we want in our lives. We set a goal, keep trying to make it happen but it just doesn‘t occur. This experience can be frustrating and detrimental to our confidence and self esteem. But rather than judging ourselves, allowing this experience to define who we are, and developing or enforcing a belief as a result of this, the key is to use this opportunity as a place of exploration. By approaching the experience with curiosity and inquiry, you can unlock the belief that stops you from achieving your goal.” International Coach Academy
Today I was talking to my coach about how I was feeling overwhelmed with the building of my new website and so we decided to explore some underlying beliefs. In the session I realized that deep down a part of me was feeling not smart enough to create a beautiful website by myself.
We did some inner child work, (which I love to do with my clients as well) and he asked me when was the first time I remember feeling not smart enough. After remembering something that happened to me at the age of 9, my coach and I then explored what I would say to a 9 year old who was not feeling smart enough.
This was my response: “You are so smart. You are beautiful and wonderful. You can do this. I am here to help you and if you feel stuck I will help you in any way I can. We can always ask other nice people to help us as well. Let’s take our time and have fun along the way. I will always be by your side. You are awesome for trying something so new and unknown.” This of course made me feel loved and I’m on my way to healing that belief and creating a wonderful new coaching website.
Coaching tip: Become aware of an area of your life you feel stuck in. What belief, opinion, or judgement could you be reinforcing by constantly creating this outcome?
Affirm: I am willing to look at my underlying beliefs and see them as tiny children that need my love.
Image by Lel4nd (be back soon in Dec)'s
“As you move out of the past and open up to the present, you wake up into a new day, a new time, where you are free to be all you ever imagined.” Debbie Ford
I love life. Each moment gives us the opportunity to start over, make a fresh start and become who we are meant to be. I have just completed my coach training. I am so excited about the new journey I am embarking upon and who I am becoming. I’ve had many challenges, as becoming a coach has forced me to look within and face my issues. Two major issues I have had to embrace, are the facts that I have been quite impulsive in the past and I can be or have been quite hard on myself. Thankfully, I now know that I can change through being gentle with myself and not by giving myself a kick in the pants. I am grateful that I have learned this, because for a while I really struggled with what I was going to name my coaching company and my blog. I registered about 3 different domain names and about 8 different blogs at the beginning of my training and I was so confused. Instead of beating myself up, I let go and took some time off to think about it, trusting the answers would come. After much thought, I have decided to go with www.jamiesmithcoaching.com (it is being built at the moment so not much to look at, but it’s going to look fantastic) and now this blog has the same name for branding consistency. (Thanks for the tips Kerri Richardson). This is my first blog post of my new blog. My blog posts will be shorter and more frequent with the intention of inspiring and supporting you to create a life you love. Every day is a new beginning, a chance to reinvent ourselves and become who we are capable of becoming. Who will you become?
Coaching tip: Today is a new day. Be willing to let go of the past and become who you were meant to be.
What can you do today to start over in an area of your life that you have been struggling with, create a fresh start and a new beginning for yourself?
What do you need to let go of in order to reinvent yourself?
Affirm: Every day is a new beginning!
Here is a video to inspire you.
Image by Melody Campbell